Ten years ago my life was forever changed, death has a way of doing that. My mother died after an extended illness and less than one month later my husband died following a tragic accident. I’m sure as you read this you are wondering how you will survive the terrible heartache of your loss.
The loss of my mother was so heartbreaking I was not prepared to say goodby and I miss her everyday wishing for more time as there was so much more I wanted to share and learn from her. My husband was my rock and held me… Continue reading
By guest blogger Jackie Trottmann
The loss of a loved one, a treasured job, friend, pet, home, relationship, or experiencing divorce, all lead to major suffering.
The ultimate deep wound is feeling or being alone. A great gap is left that can swallow up your heart, mind, and the ability to see any light.
Why Avoiding Pain is Not the Solution
We live in a culture that offers numerous prescriptions for pain. It can be in the form of pills. It can be in the form of denial. It can be in the form of destructive behavior to numb the… Continue reading
Mother’s day can often be a bittersweet day. If your mother has died you are grieving and remembering her just as I am today and if you yourself are a mother you are being celebrated by your children. So mother’s day is a day to rejoice!
I have talked with hundreds of people over the years about their mother’s who have died and it doesn’t seem to matter how long their mom has been gone, they miss them as though it were yesterday. My mom has been gone for ten years now and… Continue reading
Planting a tree is an optimistic act about the future. It is a true act of faith in the future. Following the death of a loved one we need to hold on to our faith and know that the future will once again be bright. The symbol of a tree is so representative of our rebirth of sorts and just like a tree we will once again growth and flourish.
I also love the idea of planting a tree in remembrance of a loved one. It keeps the memory of our loved ones near every time we see the tree… Continue reading
There are as many ways to memorialize our loved ones after they die. There are religious practices, family traditions and individual preferences. There is never a right and wrong and we either honor the wishes, sometimes they are set-up prior to a loved ones death or we make a decision based on what we think is best.
I encourage people to follow their heart and that comes from that deep place of knowing what is meaningful to that loved one who has died as well as what is meaningful for the living. Ceremony is most often for the living, it… Continue reading