Comments for Heartache to Healing http://heartachetohealing.com/blog Grief Support Mon, 08 Mar 2010 20:49:35 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on The Other Day In Home Depot by Diana Sebzda http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/the-other-day-in-home-depot.htm/comment-page-1#comment-488 Diana Sebzda Mon, 08 Mar 2010 20:49:35 +0000 http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/?p=1036#comment-488 So simple, so true, so beautiful! Thanks JoAnne for sharing what's deep in your heart. XO Di So simple, so true, so beautiful! Thanks JoAnne for sharing what’s deep in your heart. XO Di

]]> Comment on Where is God in Grief? by Dawn http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/where-is-god-in-grief.htm/comment-page-1#comment-479 Dawn Mon, 01 Mar 2010 08:46:12 +0000 http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/?p=975#comment-479 I have never been a religous person and I was,nt raised in a church going family. I went to sunday school at a young age but did,nt know much about the bible.It was,nt until I met my husband that I started going to church and read some of the bible. I found it quite confusing. if god is all merciful and does,nt give us more than we can bear then why does he let terrible things happen to people? Why do we loose loved ones at a young age? I lost my Son 2 years ago he would have been 21 this year. I myself have an autoimune discease.My life is just a mess. Sometimes I think if I had been more religous these things would,nt have happend. I have friends that are religous and spiritual and there attitude just baffles me, they loose a loved one or something bad happens to them they say its gods way, why is it gods way I don,t understand. I have never been a religous person and I was,nt raised in a church going family. I went to sunday school at a young age but did,nt know much about the bible.It was,nt until I met my husband that I started going to church and read some of the bible. I found it quite confusing. if god is all merciful and does,nt give us more than we can bear then why does he let terrible things happen to people? Why do we loose loved ones at a young age? I lost my Son 2 years ago he would have been 21 this year. I myself have an autoimune discease.My life is just a mess. Sometimes I think if I had been more religous these things would,nt have happend. I have friends that are religous and spiritual and there attitude just baffles me, they loose a loved one or something bad happens to them they say its gods way, why is it gods way I don,t understand.

]]> Comment on Grief, Healing & Resilience Spoken At Women’s Conference by jan cates http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/grief-healing-resilience-spoken-at-womens-conference.htm/comment-page-1#comment-478 jan cates Wed, 24 Feb 2010 21:51:08 +0000 http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/?p=820#comment-478 I want to know how i can buy the DVD on this conference! I want to know how i can buy the DVD on this conference!

]]> Comment on Anniversary of a Death by Dee http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/anniversary-of-a-death.htm/comment-page-1#comment-467 Dee Fri, 15 Jan 2010 05:59:11 +0000 http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/?p=501#comment-467 my mom died on jan. 23 2009 in my arms of pancreatic cancer. it wss horrible to see her decline so quick and even worse to be unable to make her better . so, it is approaching her anniversary and i am feeling anxious and having little flashbacks of her last few days of life. it just takes my breath way just thinking of it. my heart still hurts as if it was yesterday i miss her so very much . just thinking of her writting this makes me cry. is this normal? will i ever stop crying? my mom died on jan. 23 2009 in my arms of pancreatic cancer. it wss horrible to see her decline so quick and even worse to be unable to make her better . so, it is approaching her anniversary and i am feeling anxious and having little flashbacks of her last few days of life. it just takes my breath way just thinking of it. my heart still hurts as if it was yesterday i miss her so very much . just thinking of her writting this makes me cry. is this normal? will i ever stop crying?

]]> Comment on How Long Should You Tell Your Grief Story? by Diana Sebzda http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/how-long-should-you-tell-your-grief-story.htm/comment-page-1#comment-451 Diana Sebzda Wed, 23 Dec 2009 19:44:47 +0000 http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/?p=935#comment-451 Harriet is right! Tell your story as long as you need to. For some, this may be just a short time. For others, years. Neither is right or wrong, it is just the time needed to reconcile the loss. Harriet identified many reasons why the story telling may take longer for some than others. We should fight to change our death denying culture into one of acceptance, tolerance and support of one another. We all carry a stories that shape our grief experience and we can never know another person's story unless we listen. I hope for a peaceful and comforting holiday season for all. Harriet is right! Tell your story as long as you need to. For some, this may be just a short time. For others, years. Neither is right or wrong, it is just the time needed to reconcile the loss. Harriet identified many reasons why the story telling may take longer for some than others. We should fight to change our death denying culture into one of acceptance, tolerance and support of one another. We all carry a stories that shape our grief experience and we can never know another person’s story unless we listen. I hope for a peaceful and comforting holiday season for all.

]]> Comment on How Long Should You Tell Your Grief Story? by Shannon Hoag http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/how-long-should-you-tell-your-grief-story.htm/comment-page-1#comment-450 Shannon Hoag Wed, 23 Dec 2009 16:06:46 +0000 http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/?p=935#comment-450 JoAnne - Thank you for this website - it has rescued me over and over again. It has been almost 9 months and it is almost Christmas - I find myself more grateful for the time I got to have my daughter here than sorrowful that she is gone. I am grateful that she is no longer suffering or worrying - that she doesn't have to see the evil here anymore and that she is with Jesus and all of the other members of our family that have stepped into eternity before her. I do miss her companionship and her laughter - when she started laughing you couldn't help but laugh yourself it was so infectious. I just want the readers to know - celebrate your loved one - make that your focus instead of your loss. It will make a huge transition in your grieving process. Also, let the people around you know if you are having a bad day or need some prayer. You don't have to act tough all of the time - we are human and the grieving is because of the love you had for that person. Be kind to yourself. Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year. Shannon Hoag JoAnne – Thank you for this website – it has rescued me over and over again. It has been almost 9 months and it is almost Christmas – I find myself more grateful for the time I got to have my daughter here than sorrowful that she is gone. I am grateful that she is no longer suffering or worrying – that she doesn’t have to see the evil here anymore and that she is with Jesus and all of the other members of our family that have stepped into eternity before her. I do miss her companionship and her laughter – when she started laughing you couldn’t help but laugh yourself it was so infectious. I just want the readers to know – celebrate your loved one – make that your focus instead of your loss. It will make a huge transition in your grieving process. Also, let the people around you know if you are having a bad day or need some prayer. You don’t have to act tough all of the time – we are human and the grieving is because of the love you had for that person. Be kind to yourself. Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year.
Shannon Hoag

]]> Comment on How Will You Cope With Grief This Holiday Season? by MARY http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/how-will-you-cope-with-grief-this-holiday-season.htm/comment-page-1#comment-419 MARY Thu, 17 Dec 2009 06:39:56 +0000 http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/?p=868#comment-419 This time of the year was BUDDY's favorite tkime . He always put our CHRISTMAS tree together. HE brought the guys present and Ibrought the girls. IT IS REALLY HARD BECAUSE i keep reliving that night in FEB. 1,2009 WHEN HE DIED. I was not going to put up a tree but my 16 years old grandson is coming to stay so I found a small white one(which we have never had a white one before). I have made some new ornaments so we want even have to go in the attic for the old ones this year. I still hears his foot walking at 4 am and i sometimes can smell the coffee which has not been made since his death. It strange how our senses and mind works. I have learned from others to give it all to God and let him work us through the memories and on the days I am down it is okay just keep praying and asking for Gods help to keep the devil away. God knows my fears and he is my strenght. He put my husband and me together and he took us apart but I know he is there with his around me protecting me and i lean heavy on his words and strenght to take me all the days of my life. I am trying not to wory about tomorrow because I do not see the future nor can I take care ofthe pass. I can only live one day at a time. I still have bads days when I feel that the world is on my shoulders and i can not remember things and cry . BUt i have learn to cry to God for his help and strenght to get me through that day , that hour, the minute , and that second. God has blessed me with two good friends that have been with me through this all and when things are not okay they help me pray and give me peep talks as to whom I must turn this day over to (GOD). My advise is to the grieving , turn your grief over to God ,he is waiting to bless you and bring you around to were you need to be. You will never be the same hopefully you will be stronger then before to face what ever comes your away. I have learn towait and ask God to help me before I make any decisions. may God bless each day for you, Mary This time of the year was BUDDY’s favorite tkime . He always put our CHRISTMAS tree together. HE brought the guys present and Ibrought the girls. IT IS REALLY HARD BECAUSE i keep reliving that night in FEB. 1,2009 WHEN HE DIED. I was not going to put up a tree but my 16 years old grandson is coming to stay so I found a small white one(which we have never had a white one before). I have made some new ornaments so we want even have to go in the attic for the old ones this year.
I still hears his foot walking at 4 am and i sometimes can smell the coffee which has not been made since his death. It strange how our senses and mind works.
I have learned from others to give it all to God and let him work us through the memories and on the days I am down it is okay just keep praying and asking for Gods help to keep the devil away.
God knows my fears and he is my strenght. He put my husband and me together and he took us apart but I know he is there
with his around me protecting me and i lean heavy on his words and strenght to take me all the days of my life.
I am trying not to wory about tomorrow because I do not see the future nor can I take care ofthe pass. I can only live one day at a time. I still have bads days when I feel that the world is on my shoulders and i can not remember things and cry . BUt i have learn to cry to God for his help and strenght to get me through that day , that hour, the minute , and that second.
God has blessed me with two good friends that have been with me through this all and when things are not okay they help me pray and give me peep talks as to whom I must turn this day over to (GOD).
My advise is to the grieving , turn your grief over to God ,he is waiting to bless you and bring you around to were you need to be. You will never be the same hopefully you will be stronger then before to face what ever comes your away.
I have learn towait and ask God to help me before I make any decisions.
may God bless each day for you, Mary

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]]> Comment on How Will You Cope With Grief This Holiday Season? by Lana http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/how-will-you-cope-with-grief-this-holiday-season.htm/comment-page-1#comment-391 Lana Sun, 06 Dec 2009 16:58:38 +0000 http://heartachetohealing.com/blog/?p=868#comment-391 I just don't know how I'm going to cope this Christmas. In addition to Christmas, David's birthday is December 23. He would have been 50 years old. I don't want to celebrate. There is nothing to celebrate. Nothing helps. It's always there. Sorry to be such a "downer" but I can't think of anything at all that will make me feel better. We were together 19 years, but never married. His family insisted his services be in his birthplace and I was not able to attend. They promised me they would split his ashes, but did not follow through with it. I have only my precious memories of him, I just don’t know how I’m going to cope this Christmas. In addition to Christmas, David’s birthday is December 23. He would have been 50 years old. I don’t want to celebrate. There is nothing to celebrate. Nothing helps. It’s always there.

Sorry to be such a “downer” but I can’t think of anything at all that will make me feel better. We were together 19 years, but never married. His family insisted his services be in his birthplace and I was not able to attend. They promised me they would split his ashes, but did not follow through with it. I have only my precious memories of him,

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