Courage To Heal Your Heart

istock_000005337376xsmallI got to thinking this week on what it takes to heal your broken heart after a loss and the word that came to me was courage.  I know it isn’t always easy to get up each day and go on with life after suffering a loss of a loved one, it takes courage.  Here are a few thoughts to help you through;

  • Challenge yourself to be happy again
  • Be grateful for the life you have NOW
  • Time for change offers time to be creative, let your creativity blossom!
  • Celebrate who you are, might mean really getting in touch with yourself (what do you love about yourself that  you can celebrate today?)
  • Don’t feel this loss is an ending, look at the next step in your life and remember there are no “right steps” only the next step.
  • Courage means staying faithful, knowing life hold more for you
  • Having a courageous heart means your heart dares to believe in a happy future
  • I believe if you hang in and have courage the universe will meet you
  • Allow your heart to dive back into life, it takes courage
  • Share your gifts with the world, yes we all have gifts, what are yours?

I wrote to you in a previous post about the courage two young widows have who started the American Widow Project. Through the loss of their husbands who were killed in Iraq Taryn Davis and Nicole Hart are making a difference in the lives of other women who are widows of war.  Here is a new video that is worth watching: CLICK

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12 Responses to Courage To Heal Your Heart

  • I FEEL THE SAME WAY YOU DO. i AM GREAT AROUND PEOPLE BUT ALONE, I CRY, EVEN IF I AM NOT THINKING OF MY JOHN WHO DIED A HORRIBLE DEATH FROM EMPYHESEMA. HE WAS A GREAT GUY AND WE DID EVERYTHING TOGETHER—I AM SICK OF HEARING IT’S A PROCESS, AREN’T YOU?

    ALSO, I AM AN UPBEAT INDIVIDUAL AND AM NOT USED TO FEELING DEPRESSED. I AM NOT SURE THIS GETS ANY EASIER.
    SINCERELY,
    KATHLEEN

  • Mary,
    Let me first express my heartfelt sympathy for the loss of your husband. Like you my husband was only 55 when he died.
    Here are a few suggestions on grief groups;
    1.) see if any of your local church’s or hospitals offer a grief support group
    2.) check http://www.griefshare.com for any groups in your area (search by zip code)
    3.) Find a widower match as a mentor through Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation – Widow Match
    4.) If you have any war widows, check out the support provided by; The American Widow Project
    5.) Here is a resource book for starting your own group: “The Understanding Your Grief Support Group Guide” By Dr. Alan Wolfelt

    Please share this website with the others in your area, you will find many articles that will benefit the griever as well as comments from readers such as yourself.
    I also send out resources and information that I feel would be of interest to my subscribers.
    If I can help with any other resources, please don’t hesitate to contact me directly at joanne@heartachetohealing.com

    with love, hope and inspiration

  • I need help in starting a widowers gathering place where widows can come for support from others who are going through the same things and need help from a support group. The need is here in Carthage due to we have lost men between ages 35 and 60.
    My husband was only 55 and he had a massive heart attack which has left my family and myself in a turmoil. I need help from others to make lifes journey with God and to decearse the alone feelings.
    Thank you for any help!

  • I would like to know how to start up a widows club. In our little town no one really knows how to get one started. MY husband died in Feb. from a massive heart attack and I’m in therapy which is one on one. I live to far to go to a widows club in Dallas. In our town there is a great need due to recently we have lost our husbands which are between ages 38 and 60.There is no where to turn to I have been lucky because my insurance is helping but there is only 60 visits what will happen to me after these have been used up and plus I feel even though these widows are hurting they have had to go to work to support themselves and there children or to survive.

  • Amelia,
    thank you for posting such a heartfelt comment for Carol. Your words are wise and hopeful and I hope others will read what you have posted.
    I truly thank you for sharing.

    with love, inspiration & hope,
    JoAnne Funch

  • Carol,
    You are not alone. Some of us go through life constantly healing a hurt and feel hopeless and helpless. For many years, I have been healing a deep hurt that never seems to end. We share a common thread with all of those who have experienced loss. Many of us keep our grief behind closed doors afraid of what people will think if they only knew. In the end we are all in this together. Altough all hurt is not the same, I know it tugs at your heart making every day a little bit harder. Rejoice in the fact that other people share your common experiences and that life itself is a gift. The time you had with your loved one made you into who you are today and will forever live on within you. Live a life worthy of that. Hurt will heal but the love you had and shared will only continue to grow be ever present to bring you up when you are feeling down.

  • i am so depressed

  • I have personally replied to Carol’s post, if you are a widow and can offer her comfort & support please email her at; cbartzick@yahoo.com

    JoAnne Funch

  • I too am numb. I lost my partner to pancreatic/ampulary cancer.
    He was 49 and in great shape. I do not know about this courage stuff. All I know is that making it through the days are getting harder and more depressing. I not caring about things that used to interest me. Why bother. John and I used to do most things together or check schedules to work it out.
    I feel like I am spiraling down.

  • I love to click on my e-mail in the morning and see a hope of inspiration.It helps so much to read those.
    I am at the point now, that I am just numb. Go through my day
    with very little emotion.
    I miss Steve so much
    Gail

  • Not only does it take courage to go through the grief process, but I believe it takes GREAT courage to take one’s own grief experiences and use it to help others. What a great way to make meaning of our loss and to honor our loved ones’.

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