Honoring The Memories of Loved Ones

Honoring the memories of our loved ones is important, it is personal and individual. Some people find great solace in with visits to a cemetery, others honor with religious services.  Each year on the anniversary of my husband’s death I write a poem.  For me writing is  a therapeutic expression of how I am feeling about my own personal grief journey.   I also have a martini every year and make a toast to my husband! It’s just a personal meaningful gesture, both bittersweet and joy filled at the same time. Here is this years poem…

In The Quiet Hours of The Day

In the quiet hours of the day
I often wonder if you are with me, I wonder if you are you okay?

If I close my eyes and breathe releasing my daily strife,
I hear your voice inside my head telling me to go on and live life.

I often dream and want to know what it is like to be where you are,
where love lives in faith and all is imagined to be perfect and pure.

I want to release my loss to the heavens above and be in a state of grace,
And I pray to you dear God that you guide me to this place.

As the years pass by, the memories still held near
I become more grateful for the time you were here.

Each year as I grow stronger that love, courage and strength will endure,
my friends remind me I already have this and for that they seem so sure.

So gratitude is now what envelops my soul,
each year that goes by I become more and more whole.

© JoAnne Funch 2013

memory of Allan

How do you honor the memory of your loved ones? If you feel inspired, please share in the comments below.




3 Responses to Honoring The Memories of Loved Ones

  • My husband just celebrated his first birthday in Heaven, July 27, 2014. I have planted flowers in his work boots which he used as a part-time landscaper at our church. I placed them in our yard he loved and nurtured. I also, over a 5 month period put together a photo journal with comments from the time we dated 36 years ago until after his death, which I titled “Life Even After.” My granddaughter is doing a memory blanket with photos from our wedding and some of the clothes and ties he wore.

  • Please offer advice, 2nd anniversary of my brother’s death, who committed suicide. He lived and died in Wilmington, NC but is buried in the NC mountains. Family is divided on how to spend this day. It is Nov 28, Thanksgiving Day. Parents want to be in Wilmington, sister wishes to be n mountains. We are always together for Thanksgiving, always. Already anxious and dreading this stressful day. Should we just stay home, Thanksgiving Day and go our separate ways on Friday? – Charlotte

  • Thanks for sharing your lovely poem. I believe one can only feel sadness and joy at the same time because they have opened their hearts to the full spectrum of life – sure sign of wholeness, dear friend.

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