How Do You Want To Be Remembered?

How do you want to be remembered?When we attend someones funeral everyone is reminiscent over the person who died.  We remember their life, if they died young we talk about how unfair it is and if they had a long life we often talk about their accomplishments.  But the one thing we all realize at a funeral is that all we have are memories.  Yes, I have always said that death teaches us much about life.

Ask yourself now, how do you want to be remembered?

I have suffered many of my own personal losses and when writing the obituary following the death of my husband I wrote about his accomplishments and those things I wanted people to remember about him.  But what we all do so infrequently is ask ourselves how do we want to be remembered?  How will I live my life now?  How will I invest the time I have this day and each day before my own death?

 

  • Will I invest more time with my family?
  • What time do I choose to invest in my business or work life?
  • When will I take the next vacation and stop putting it off?

These are some of the questions we should be asking ourselves in life NOW.  There are no do-overs, all we get is now which reminds me of the famous poem by the American Poet Mary Oliver called “The Summer Day”.  The last half of the poem is what moves me the most…

…”I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?”

I know you might be reading this and saying to yourself when you get through this then you will invest some time into something, but then the weeks turn into months that turn into years and before you realize it so much of your life has passed you by. People who have regrets at the end of their life wonder why they wasted so much time putting off life until something was different.

You make the choice, what are your priorities?

Don’t let a crisis or death push you into asking the question of how do you want to be remembered, spend some time and ask yourself that question today, think it through, write it down and start living.
What is important to you?
Do you have a set of priorities in life that you own or are your priorities someone else’s.

  • God
  • Self
  • Spouse
  • Children
  • Work

Life takes courage & commitment

So now that you have a priority list, make ONE decision a day and follow through.  Sometimes that means taking a risk – what does that mean?  Maybe it means just stepping out of your comfort zone and taking a stand in your life.  Will you have fear? probably but that’s why we need that shot of courage to step up to our life.

Mary Oliver quoteSo how will you live your one wild and precious life?  By doing so, you will honor the memories of your loved ones that have passed because I believe they are in heaven cheering you on to do just that!!

 

…Share with me in the comments below, how do you truly want to be remembered?

 

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2 Responses to How Do You Want To Be Remembered?

  • I just want to be remembered for how much I loved my daughters, son’s in law. and grandchildren and how I was a caring and compassionate friend and that I was generous and giving with my heart. That I took the time to let my family know how very much I was so extremely proud of them and every thing, good or bad, they did. Not because it was something I wished for but I wished for them health and happiness and Love. If you take anything with you in this life its love. That I was a devoted daughter, a hard worker and that I loved my Denver Broncos good or bad years!!!

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