How Will You Cope With Grief This Holiday Season?
We’re into the holiday season, we see all the ads on TV for all the latest and greatest products and sales, and the social activities are being planned. If you are grieving the death of a loved one, you might not be feeling very festive and jolly, in fact you might be more like Scrooge – ho hum bug, wondering how will you cope? You might be asking, how can I survive this? How can I hide until this is all over? I can’t act normal because my life isn’t normal – I can’t face happy people – why doesn’t anyone talk about my loved one?
If this is the first holiday without your dear loved one you might, your emotions are raw and tears will flow.
What does all this mean? Well, it means that the void that is left in your life by the loss of your loved one might have changed how you and your family choose to celebrate this holiday season. It may mean a time to honor old rituals and possibly a time to start creating new ones around the memory of your loved one.
Here are a few tips;
- Honor What You Feel – Anger, Sadness, Depression, Fear, Guilt, etc
- Express What You Feel – talk to others about how you are feeling
- Plan Ahead – This will help you cope and avoid unexpected situations
- Empower Yourself Where You Can – Evaluate traditions and be clear on what you want
- Self Care – Don’t assume you are taking care, be deliberate about taking time for yourself
Here are a few ways to incorporate your loved one into your holiday traditions;
- Gift a gift in their name – Buy a gift your loved one would have liked and donate it in their name
- Include your loved one in gatherings – By bringing out photos and share stories
- Plant A Tree – Place a tree next to your loved ones headstone, it can be planted after the holiday in a memorial garden or your yard.
It is a fact that most people who experience any major loss do recover and live a full life again. So there is hope.
“Once you choose hope, anything is possible” – Actor, Christopher Reeves
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