As I sit with my morning coffee and look outside on the blanket of glistening snow I recite all that I am grateful for this Christmas morning. At the same time I remembered all the Christmas mornings with my husband and Mom who are no longer here, but I choose to find and feel the joy in today. Soon all the family that will gather for a wonderful dinner and we celebrate that we are here, together in this moment in time. I… Continue reading
I was thinking how healing it has been for me to do volunteer work because it puts my grief of loss in perspective. Particularly during the holiday season as I wrote about before, we regress back to the good times we had with someone who has died and in my case I miss my husband even more during this time because we I have such great memories of the Christmas’ we spent together.
So yesterday I volunteered at my favorite local charity providing work appropriate clothing to women getting back into the work place. Most of the women that… Continue reading
Holiday time is all about regression, we think alot about the past, what was and those loved ones no longer here that we celebrated the holidays with, this is why holiday time can be so difficult.
Family will often stop you from grieving during this time because they don’t want you to be sad so they won’t bring up the loved one that died. So often times its easier to be with friends who will let you talk about the great times you had with your deceased loved one. Talking is a part of grieving and just know that… Continue reading
Here are some tips I want to share that will help in coping through the holiday season;
It is not only holidays that are difficult because there is an “empty chair,” but also anniversaries, birthdays, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and so on. Here are some effective ways to manage these special days:
- Plan ahead. How will you spend the day? With whom?
- Talk about your deceased loved one. This will let others know that you want to hear his/her name and to talk about that person.
- Establish personal priorities. Decide what you want to do, how you wish to celebrate,… Continue reading
Thanksgiving is that family time when we all share a meal and talk about all that we are thankful for. Sometimes through grieving we can’t seem to find gratitude through our tears and sorrow, and you know what that’s OK for now – give yourself a reasonable amount of time. You will search your soul and find many things to be grateful for when you are ready, remember to focus on those still in your life, and the many blessings you have everyday such as a job that provides security and money, a home you have to shelter you, food… Continue reading