I last wrote about asking for help, because we can’t get through grief or any stressful life challenges alone. I realized some time back that I was blessed by people in my life that I considered as part of my “circle of strength” – those who are there for me when I ask and even when I don’t. We all need a circle of those who support us through the thick and thin of life, those we know we can truly… Continue reading
As we experience a loss it is important that you reach out and ask for help. Telling someone what you need is not shameful, nor is a sign of weakness. But asking for help may make you vulnerable and uncomfortable if you are used to doing everything yourself. (I say that from experience)
Most people feel helpless around you and would do anything to ease your pain, but we must remember to ask and not presume the people who love us are psychic!
Here are a few suggestions on tasks to start with;
– ask a neighbor kid to mow… Continue reading
Regret is one of those emotions you most likely will experience during grief. You might have regrets over things you wish you would have said or done while you had the chance, you have that thought – “If only I had….” this thought will probably persist until one day you come to terms with the fact you couldn’t have done anything differently. The thoughts of regret are really harmful and you must know you can change the past, but you have the future filled with new possibilities and opportunities to tell anyone you choose how important they… Continue reading
The loneliness of loss can be one of the most painful of the emotions you will feel during the grieving process. I know for myself and for my Dad, after the loss of our spouse the evenings are particularly a lonely time because it’s the end of the day and the time you usually settled in for dinner and an evening with your spouse. You might want to find something to do once or twice a week to break up the evening loneliness even if it is dinner at a friends or and evening playing cards with a local… Continue reading
As you attempt to deal with your sadness, anger, and fear you may find it helpful to write about those feelings. Writing about your feelings helps to unload some of that pressure because it gives you a way to express your emotions. Grief is a journey and grieving is a process, writing is a tool that can help you on your journey to heal.
Some find it helpful to write letters to those they’ve lost, others write their feelings in a journal which is what I do and still others may write in blogs or grief forums such as… Continue reading