I spoke with a dear friend this past weekend who lost her husband 11 months ago, she was feeling sad and alone, steps we all go through as we walk the journey of loss. We as women go through stages of fear relating to finances, keeping our household together, loneliness, relationships old and new, our children’s well being and a myriad of other emotions that bring us fear.
As my friend related, someday’s all you can do is sit and cry and you… Continue reading
Anger. We all experience it, some more than others like those who are grieving a loss. That applies to loss from death, divorce or even a job loss.
Anger does not necessarily follow a logical path. Different people will focus their anger in different directions. For instance, you might be angry with people or at circumstances surrounding your loss, or you may be angry at the person you lost – that could even be an ex-spouse who you are angry at for the loss of a marriage.
In any case, is your anger misdirected to those you think are responsible… Continue reading
Sometimes the best remedy for grief is to find ways to touch someone else’s life. This is something that has helped me and I’ve seen it help others I know as well. Through your own grief try opening up and observing the needs around you, there will be ways you can take your own experiences and develop skills to help others in need. Often time grief can isolate and create loneliness, volunteering is a good way to get back into life regardless of your age. Seniors can volunteer in their communities, churches and senior centers. Younger… Continue reading
Sometimes people try to help by rushing you out of the grieving process back into the main stream of what your life was. People sometimes even say words like “You need to get back into life” but your life is forever changed by the transition of loss. The length of the grieving process is different for each person, and you know the grieving process needs to take place for healing to begin. This is not to say one should grieve forever and not move on with life, but grieve in your own way and while the healing takes place you… Continue reading
This week I got to thinking about a deeper meaning to my life, which I do from time to time and I remembered a quote by the late George Carlin “Just when I found out the meaning of life, they changed it.”
I know this sounds like a really heavy and profound subject, but if you’ve experience death, it makes you think about life. You reflect on lives and loves that are lost and your place in the world and usually that means a world that offers you more meaning, a purpose to exist and get up… Continue reading