Sometimes people try to help by rushing you out of the grieving process back into the main stream of what your life was. People sometimes even say words like “You need to get back into life” but your life is forever changed by the transition of loss. The length of the grieving process is different for each person, and you know the grieving process needs to take place for healing to begin. This is not to say one should grieve forever and not… Continue reading
This week I got to thinking about a deeper meaning to my life, which I do from time to time and I remembered a quote by the late George Carlin “Just when I found out the meaning of life, they changed it.”
I know this sounds like a really heavy and profound subject, but if you’ve experience death, it makes you think about life. You reflect on lives and loves that are lost and your place in the world and usually that means a world that offers you more meaning, a purpose to exist and get up… Continue reading
This weekend I was able to travel back to my old neighborhood to attend the funeral of my neighbor Jim and to be there for his widow Louise during her time of sorrow. It was an occasion really of family, friends and support of a whole church community and seeing that made me grateful to be apart. Funerals can be a time of comfort, and of true support and respect.
I was particularly impressed with how the church community came together and supported one of their members by a attending the service and then bringing food over to… Continue reading
Do you experience your emotions some days like a roller coaster – up and down? I know I sure did and still do from time to time. Emotions like anger, sadness, fear, depression, loneliness and deep heartache are unpredictable. With these emotions does come healing so you need to feel these emotions, honor how you feel and ride it out.
Last weekend I drove by my old house that I shared with my late husband for the first time since I moved and there was a flood of emotions, that of the life I once had. I acknowledged those feelings… Continue reading
Women tend to approach grief differently than men. Often women have a network of friends and relationships already in place, providing them an opportunity for deep personal sharing. Men don’t often have a network except perhaps through peers at work. Whether you are a man or a woman, you need to vent your emotions, and use other people to help you heal. Seek out support and when people ask how they can help –
– ask them to just listen while you talk about your loved one
– ask them to call you once and awhile to check in and… Continue reading