By Allen Klein
After we experience a loss, we tend to focus on what we no longer have. As a result we focus our energy on the negative, or what is missing in our life, rather than on the positive, or all of those wonderful things we still have. One of my spiritual teachers once told me that when we want what we don’t have, we waste what we do have. To translate that into loss-related situations—to want what is no longer in… Continue reading
We can only feel our own sorrow for what we have lost. This is a very common reaction to grief.
But what if?
What if for one hour a day you focused on finding things to be grateful for? According to Robert Emmons, the world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude, reveals why gratitude is good for our bodies, our minds, and our relationships. Robert Emmons study of gratitude went on to say that when they “studied more than… Continue reading
Celebration and honoring of the dead
If you are not familiar with the term “Dia de Muertos” in translates in English to Day of the Dead.
In Spanish and Native American tradition, as well as in others, it is time to honor the beloved dead with altars “offrendras” flowers, family get togethers and food.
I decided to visit a locally owned Hispanic restaurant and market because they were giving talks about the celebration and the tradition behind it. I was told that many believe in honoring the memories of their family that have died… Continue reading
By guest author, Ruth Mancini
I’ve always missed not having a dad.
My parents separated when I was young, and then when I was 15, my dad was hit by a car and died. There’s always been a gap in my life that could never be filled.
In the early 1990s I split up from my long term partner and the pain of my father’s death and the loss of that relationship hit me hard all at the same time. A friend once told me, “When something bad happens it drags up everything bad that has ever happened to you”… Continue reading
Becoming an Orphan, By Carolyn Ridder Aspenson
There is a secret club no one really talks about. It’s the orphan club.
I don’t mean orphan in the traditional sense, where a child is born and the parents are not a part of the child’s life. This club of orphans is the club one joins after both of his or her parents have passed. Not everyone becomes a member of this club but many do and those that enter before others don’t discuss it with anyone who isn’t a member, at least not in any detail.
My mother passed in June… Continue reading