Today Elizabeth Edwards died after her long battle with cancer. I so admired this woman who taught us much about resilience and facing life’s adversities. She shared publicly her private moments of joy and sorrow all while holding her head high and using each step of her life as a teaching opportunity for her children.
Elizabeth Edwards seemed to face life with grace and dignity up to the end and on her own terms. She was determined to spend her remaining days living, according to the reports. She had said that she had to reconcile with God , no longer as an intervening God because she new that was past but with a God where she seeks salvation and enlightenment. “It’s the God I have now” she said.
I have thought often about resilience myself, I believe I have found it for myself, but have YOU? Do you believe you have or can be resilient?
Is resilience a learned skill? Or are we born with a gene that makes us more resilient than someone else? Is our resilience predictable? How do we measure resilience? I hadn’t thought much about this until 2005 when I experienced the most devastating year of my life and my own resilience was tested following the deaths of my mother, husband and uncle. I know that first couple of years I wondered how I would survive let alone how would I thrive and feel joy again, but I did. I am resilient and I am living life with joy, on my own terms.
My Dad taught me a great lesson while following my mom’s death and while he was with me helping me following my husbands death, he said “JoAnne, we just play the cards we’re dealt, we might not like it but we just do what we need to do.” I have encountered a number of adversities in my life and yet here I am, I keep pulling myself up by my boot straps, wipe away my tears, yell out in frustration occasionally and keep living.
Elizabeth Edwards said in her book Resilience, “I have said before that I do not know what the most important lesson is that I will ever teach my children, Cate and Emma Claire and Jack. I do know that when they are older and telling their own children about their grandmother, they will be able to say that she stood in the storm, and when the wind did not go her way — and surely it has not — she adjusted her sails.”
Rest in peace dearest Elizabeth, thank you for sharing apart of your life with us…
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