Support Groups for Widows

Today I attended a luncheon sponsored by a local funeral home and partner of the LIFT Program.  I wanted to see firsthand what they have to offer for widows/widowers.

The LIFT program is a social support program that  provides monthly luncheons and various other outings and activities. It’s a really good way for widows and widowers to connect with people who understand what they are going through.

The LIFT program often features guest speakers on a variety of topics, and these events are totally free too.

Benefits Of  Joining A Widow Support Group

The benefits of the LIFT group and other support groups for widows and widowers are many:

Support Groups For Widows1.  Provides a place to meet others who have lost their spouse, others who understand your loss.

2.  Provides support from feeling isolated and alone

3.  Opportunity to meet new friends

4.  Great way to participate in organized activities without feeling like the 3rd wheel (often those who have lost a spouse feel like the 3rd wheel with their friends that have spouses)

LIFT offers groups nationwide. you can click on this link to find one nearest you.

*My personal experience today was that the group was all seniors. That’s not to say all groups all the same so be sure to ask the organizer the ages of the attendees.

Remember, you don’t have to be alone.  If you can’t find a group in your area, contact me and I will try to help!

JoAnne

  • GALE

    I lost my husband of 46 years in July of 2008 and it still feels like yesterday. We knew we probably would not see our 50th anniversary, but I don’t think we can really be ready to lose our loved ones. I know he is no longer in pain but I ask myself everyday why did he have to leave us. We have 3 children and 5 grandchildren who really miss him and we need him. God decided he needed him more and I really try to accept this but the heartache is so hard. Like you I miss Dave and his touch and his love everything about him and have no interest whatsoever in meeting someone else so I thank God for the love and years we had together and for our family. Yes I do understand your pain and oh how I wish I did not, but hang in there and I am told we’ll get through this. I’ll pray for you also.

  • Sandsable

    Good for you Kim I have been single for 11 years now. I have dated but at the end of the day it’s not loving me for who I am it’s for what I have….still lonely and praying for a God sent mate.

  • Kymberly Court

    You can not question your actions or live a life of , “what ifs.” We are all human and even in the best of marriages there will be arguments and disagreements. Your grief is new, and you are in pain. There is a light at the end of a very dark tunnel, and though it is difficult to believe, you will feel the warmth on your face again. Life will not be the same, but it will be good. Listen to your heart, and know that one day you will see your husband again. For me, my healing started when I asked God for help. Join a support group, meet new friends. Know you are not alone, and that life will indeed go on, and go on well.

  • Kymberly Court

    I lost my husband April 22, 2014 from a massive MI. Michael was 50 years old and healthy. Mike and I have three children and were incredibly happy. The last 15 months have been hard at times, however, I have found that I have a strength that I didn’t know that I possessed. My children and I have weathered the storm and are living lives that I know are making Michael proud. Sense Michaels death, our two daughters have married, and our first grandchildren, (twins,) are due on Christmas day. I have met an amazing man, who understands my bruised heart, and we recently became engaged and will marry July 22, 2016. To some, it may seem that I have gone on with my life to quickly, or that I have not grieved fully. To those I say, you do not know my heart, or the moments that I have felt that I can not put one foot in front of the other. I can not and will not live a life in the shadows or walk a life that is void of light or beauty. Michael is not, nor will he ever be forgotten or replaced. Mike lives inside of me and occupies a place that is his and his alone. At times, I catch myself whispering his name, and getting lost in his scent or the memory of his touch. I have been asked, was Michael not the love of your life, and as much as I loved the man to whom I shared so very much, there is but one truthful answer to this question, ” I can not say, for I have not lived all of my life.” God bless us all.
    Kymberly

  • Dineo Moatshe

    Hi Laura
    I would like to extend my sympathies to the loss of your husband. Losing someone close to your heart is very painful.Grieving is a process that everyone who has lost someone goes through. I lost my husband of 26 years in marriage, tragically 16 years ago.It was very hurting because he was killed in a car hijack,in front of our house in the presence of neighbors and people attending the wedding.It happened like a lightning, as I we were just arriving at home.It was so traumatizing that I ended up suffering from post traumatic depression. But through counselling and psychiatric therapy, I got healed.To heal, you have to accept, and focus on your life.Even though is painful and hurting, be brave to talk about your loss and focus on making your life worthwhile.Try to to do activities that will occupy you, join the walkers, joggers, book club or charity organisations,or enroll to a course that will keep you busy.If you have young children, try to focus on their school activities, by volunteering.

  • Jan Hatfield

    Lost my husband May 21,2015.I am so sad & alone too
    Is there a support group in New Ulm,MN

  • Carol Greenspan

    I just lost my husband of nearly 20 years this past Sunday. He had recently had medical tests that showed his heart condition was stable (he had had a heart attack back in 1987), his blood pressure was good, and his blood tests were all normal. Last Sunday, he was sitting reading when all of a sudden he just stopped breathing. He had just turned 83, but told me he really felt that he had a good many more years ahead of him. That was why the shock was so intense when it happened. I had been somewhat prepared for that day, but everything looked like it was going along well. Now, I’m trying to get through one day at a time, but some days are worst than others. Yesterday would have been our 20th wedding anniversary and I found myself talking to him like he was still here. Just when I think that I might have found a little peace, it hits again like a fist in the stomach. I just need to talk to other women who have been through this and will understand what I’m going through.

  • Gina Becker-Hopkins

    I lost my Husband December 11, 2013 I am so sad, lost lonely. I have a 12 year old son, this is really hard I am trying to be strong for him, but I am so sad what can I do to ease the pain still it hurts, and now fathers day is coming up and I don’t know how to spend this joyous day with out my husband and his father gone.I have gone to church but it seems like it lasts for a few days and I am sad again, if I cry my son gets upset, my husband was the love of my life, a great husband father friend he was my everything and now I feel like I have nothing. I have to worry how I am going to be able to stay in my house, bills etc. It really hurts.

  • Heart2hart

    I lost my husband March 29, 2015, I’m experiencing all kinds of different feelings and questions. We got into an argument that night said things I didn’t get a chance to apologize for or talk out, I keep thinking if I had only not went back to sleep that morning I could have done something.

  • Laura DeCosta

    i lost my husband a week ago feb 23,2015, and i just don’t know what to do,sometimes i just don’t feel like i can go on anymore, i don’t know what to do

  • maria

    I am a widow for about 15 months. I think and feel the reality setting in that I am alone now. Now day passes by that I do not think of my husband. He was a lover and friend and a great companion for me. I was going to school and I lost my passion to pursue my PhD and just want to abandon everything and just sit around. It hurts so much, in such agony.

  • Sheillah Takawira

    I lost my husband almost 18 years ago. I would like to start up a charity organisation in Zimbabwe to support widows. My journey as a widow has been very challenging and wish to make a difference in other widows lives. If there is any one out there to help my dream to come true with regards to starting up this charity organisation. Does anyone know donors and partners to start up this project.

  • Mary Hjelm

    I recently lost my husband after 38 years of marriage. I would like to find a support group in my local area. I live in a northwest suburb of Minneapolis. I feel so alone and afraid about all the decisions that I will now have to make. Thank you.

  • Dot Price

    Please reply to my resent comment regards local group thsnks

  • Bette Champney

    Need support how to start over after 38 years

  • teresa kennedy

    JoAnne, I need your help, my cousin Chris just lost his wife very unexpectedly. She was in the hospital and had just found out she was coming home the next morning, he was setting there with her and turned around and she fell over and died. He is devestated, he lives in Stonemountain ga and I live in Knoxville Tn, he has a couple that lives two houses up that have had him there for supper every night since she died, and of couse I talk with him everynight, but he is so loney, he is confused and lost, he feels as if he has been cut in half and been left to die himself. Of course he now only has the one income so I am looking for him some type of support group to meet with so he can share what he is feeling with someone who understands. I am looking for something within 10 miles of stonemountain GA if possible. Will you help me find something for him. please email me and let me know. Thanks

  • Dot Price

    Hello. I lost my husband 4years ago I still work but would I feel im now ready to join a group with people that are in the same situation as my self so please could you advise a group in worcester or malvern many thanks dot

  • http://www.heartachetohealing.com JoAnne

    Cynthia,
    I am so sorry for your sudden loss, I understand because I share your experience. Yes you feel like everyone has moved on except you as you whirl in disbelief. This journey of grief you are on is not easy but the pain is lessened with loving support of others. I encourage you to seek out a grief support or widow support group in your area. Being with people who share your experience can be powerfully healing. If you can’t find anything online in a search, then contact hospice, your church, a funeral home or hospital for resources. Let me know if I can provide any other resources. JoAnne

  • Cynthia Thomas

    I lost my husband unexpectedly after a routine surgical procedure that is usually done on an outpatient basis, but he was kept in the hospital overnight just for observation. He died from a blood clot to his lung on November 5, 2013. I was planning to bring him home and take care of him, not bury him. He was my husband, partner, lover, and best friend for 34 years and the only person who truly loved me and cared about me. I miss him so much! I have days when I understand that God brought his Angel home, but there are others when I just want to wake up from this horrible nightmare…except it is real. People say they will call and look out for you…no one really understands the pain nor do they want to keep hearing about how you feel. My body aches for him…He had beautiful hands that touched me everyday and now there is no one to touch me. I miss making love with him, but I don’t want anyone else to touch me. Sometimes, like today, I want to curl up and hide under the covers and hope I will see him walk through the door when I come out. I keep thinking I am okay, but it is like taking two steps forward and ten steps backward. If the physical and emotional pain would just stop…I just need someone to really understand how this feels. Thanks.

  • http://www.honourwidows.org Revd Samue Chukwuemeka Okoli

    I am a humanitarian and Founder of HOPE FOR TODAY’S WIDOWS INTERNATIONAL. I read through your website and deeply appreciate what you are doing for the widows and the briefed. Please I will like you to partner with my organization that is registered and located in Nigeria for the alleviation of the sufferings of many widows. Our website http://www.honourwidows.org will help to convince you of our sincerity and achievements so far. thanks

  • Janet

    I am no longer employed and would like to become an inspirational speaker to widows. I lost my husband on April 12, 2003. He was 51.5 y.o. at the time and I was 52.5 y.o. He died very quickly and unexpectedly of a heart attack. I have written poems about my grief over the years as my way of “dealing with his loss” and have had them published. I have always wanted to gather stories from widows who have “lost” their husbands very suddenly and about how they have dealt with the grief and have moved on. I think it would be great to collaberate with someone like you and gather stories for a book who have gone on and rebuilt their lives with hope, such as for “Chicken Soup for Widows.” Whar do you think? Are you interested?

  • http://heartachetohealing.com Diane Gandy Sisler

    I tried to subscribe but it won’t go through. I am just trying to find some support out there. My daughters, Kristi 7 and Jennifer 5 passed 27 years ago and then 3 years ago after meeting a man that made me want to live again, I agreed after five years together to marry him. We married in March and in Dec he was diagnosised with pancreatic cancer. He lost his battle 13 months later on a 6 month prognosis. I haven’t found any true support groups out there for Widows and Widowers. There are some that get together for the purpose of dating and that isn’t the deal. This may not get to anyone, but at least I tried. I guess when i get strong enough, this will be my other mission. My fist is fighting Pancreatic Cancer. Thank you for listening.

  • Evelyn Whittaker

    My husband of 29 yrs. passed away 4 months ago and I feel so alone . I miss so much and I have days when I cry so much and don’t stop for a while . I hold his picture to my chest sitting on our bed and I sleep on his side now with one of his shirts that I have kept . He was much older than me but , we were also best friends and loved each other so much . I would really love to hear from any of you . This time of the holidays and all I just wish they would just come and go quickly . I am staying home for the holidays where I can just cry without being with people. I would not want to spoil their holidays . I just need someone to talk to .

  • Teresa Sowers

    i just need some support right now

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