Healing does require support as you journey through the pain of your loss. First, seek out those who you know will support, comfort and really be there for you. Having those shoulders to cry on and the kindness of others to patiently listen will aid in your healing journey. Those who are genuinely caring and non-judgemental are best. Sharing the pain doesn’t make it go away but the support of others makes the journey tolerable and knowing that life is worth living when others are there to strengthen and encourage us along.
Many people find comfort in their faith and talking with the pastor, minister or the like at their place of worship.
In most communities you will find support groups which are organized through church’s, hospitals, funeral homes, Hospice centers and even now through the Meet-Up organization (www.meet-up.com). I encourage anyone who is seeking more active listeners in a non-judgemental space who might not be receiving support through other means mentioned above to seek out a group in your area.
On-line grief support has grown dramatically in the past two years since I started this site. There is a growing demand from people to connect on-line which is indicative of the explosion of social media. Online grief support offers people immediate support from others who understand and are experiencing loss at the same time. There is a quality of comfort in connecting with other who understand. I will caution you however that at the same time you feel connected you can also feel isolated if you don’t seek comfort and support outside the online world. Life is meant to be lived fully and that includes getting back involved in your business and social world prior to your loss.
I just read this great article about the study proving the physical and emotional benefits of friends and especially women who benefit from their girlfriend relationships. Be sure to pay attention to the paragraph that talks about how much better women do after the death of their spouse if they have support of their girlfriends, a confidant to help them through the difficult times.
UCLA STUDY ON FRIENDSHIP AMONG WOMEN
By Gale Berkowitz
A landmark UCLA study suggests friendships between women are special.
They shape who we are and who we are yet to be. They soothe our… Continue reading
Please don’t think you have to walk the journey of the grieving process alone…
1. Ask for help if you feel isolated or alone. Reach out to your family, friends. Share with them how you are feeling.
2. Reach out to your church, often you will find a grief support group within your church so ask.
3. You can also locate a group near you through grief share.
4. Get back into a routine that brings some normalcy back into your life.
5. Stay connected to family & friends. Meet for dinner or other activities outside… Continue reading
This weekend I was able to travel back to my old neighborhood to attend the funeral of my neighbor Jim and to be there for his widow Louise during her time of sorrow. It was an occasion really of family, friends and support of a whole church community and seeing that made me grateful to be apart. Funerals can be a time of comfort, and of true support and respect.
I was particularly impressed with how the church community came together and supported one of their members by a attending the service and then bringing food over to… Continue reading