Often we are angry following a death, it’s possible we don’t know how to handle these feelings or how to get through it
By Jackie Trottmann
After my mother’s death, the last emotion I thought I would feel is anger. Well, really… rage. It welled up from deep inside of me like I was possessed.
I wasn’t angry because of her passing. She had lived to be 96 with her wits about her until the end. Even with congestive heart failure and complications with diabetes, she didn’t suffer. What more of a blessing could you ask for?
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Letting Go Following a Mother’s Death
By the age of twelve, I knew what the word cancer meant. My mother had been diagnosed with stage-four pancreatic cancer shortly after Mother’s Day in 1988. Her physicality had slowly deteriorated, and she returned home from the hospital a fragment of the woman she had once been. Chemotherapy thinned her hair, and her swollen legs prevented mobility. I did my best to keep out of sight because I didn’t want to be present when my mother drew her last breath and slipped from this world into the next.
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Can there be grieving without regret? The experience of this strong emotion is both individual and universal to one extent or another.
We experience regret when we look back on our actions and feel we should or could have done something differently. In my article “When an Ex-Spouse Dies”, there are hundreds of comments from readers who experience regret following the death of their ex-spouse. Emotions from their past stirred unexpected feelings of both sadness and regret even when many had moved on to new relationships and marriages.
Is it regret or guilt?
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Guest post by: Kim Pace
It has been almost three years since the death of my mother. I fumble through day after day of waking up pretending I am okay living without her. Yet, the truth is I lie every single day to myself with affirmations like “death is a part of life, she is in a better place, and she is no longer suffering”. You can rattle off all the inspirational quotes to me and my reaction is the same. I will never be the same person I was before… Continue reading
Ten years ago my life was forever changed, death has a way of doing that. My mother died after an extended illness and less than one month later my husband died following a tragic accident. I’m sure as you read this you are wondering how you will survive the terrible heartache of your loss.
The loss of my mother was so heartbreaking I was not prepared to say goodby and I miss her everyday wishing for more time as there was so much more I wanted to share and learn from her. My husband was my rock… Continue reading