Can there be grieving without regret? The experience of this strong emotion is both individual and universal to one extent or another.
We experience regret when we look back on our actions and feel we should or could have done something differently. In my article “When an Ex-Spouse Dies”, there are hundreds of comments from readers who experience regret following the death of their ex-spouse. Emotions from their past stirred unexpected feelings of both sadness and regret even when many had moved on to new relationships and marriages.
Is it regret or guilt?
Sometimes guilt… Continue reading
Guest post by: Kim Pace
It has been almost three years since the death of my mother. I fumble through day after day of waking up pretending I am okay living without her. Yet, the truth is I lie every single day to myself with affirmations like “death is a part of life, she is in a better place, and she is no longer suffering”. You can rattle off all the inspirational quotes to me and my reaction is the same. I will never be the same person I was before… Continue reading
Ten years ago my life was forever changed, death has a way of doing that. My mother died after an extended illness and less than one month later my husband died following a tragic accident. I’m sure as you read this you are wondering how you will survive the terrible heartache of your loss.
The loss of my mother was so heartbreaking I was not prepared to say goodby and I miss her everyday wishing for more time as there was so much more I wanted to share and learn from her. My husband was my rock… Continue reading
Guest post By Gary Roe
Jeff was a good friend. He sat in front of me in seventh grade English. He was quiet, respectful, and smart. He was easy to be with.
The day after Christmas break, Jeff was absent. He wasn’t there the next day either. The third day, the principle came in, looking somber.
“I’m sorry to tell you this,” she said. “Jeff got very sick with spinal meningitis during Christmas. He didn’t make it.”
I stared at her in shock. I dropped my eyes and gazed at the empty desk in front of me. “He didn’t make… Continue reading
Grief is so often a painful experience and for some a journey that never seems to end and they suffer such great sadness long after a loved one has died. Although we all grieve differently and there is no timetable saying our grief should only last a certain period of time, we can also get stuck in grief that paralyzes us from continuing to live our own life.
Recently I heard the spiritual author and teacher Gary Zukav say some thing that I thought was worth sharing because I found him quite thought provoking.
He said “If you think people… Continue reading