Do you experience your emotions some days like a roller coaster – up and down? I know I sure did and still do from time to time. Emotions like anger, sadness, fear, depression, loneliness and deep heartache are unpredictable. With these emotions does come healing so you need to feel these emotions, honor how you feel and ride it out.
Last weekend I drove by my old house that I shared with my late husband for the first time since I moved and there was a flood of emotions, that of the life I once had. I acknowledged those feelings… Continue reading
Women tend to approach grief differently than men. Often women have a network of friends and relationships already in place, providing them an opportunity for deep personal sharing. Men don’t often have a network except perhaps through peers at work. Whether you are a man or a woman, you need to vent your emotions, and use other people to help you heal. Seek out support and when people ask how they can help –
– ask them to just listen while you talk about your loved one
– ask them to call you once and awhile to check in and… Continue reading
If you have ever experienced multiple losses like I did when I lost my Mom and husband within a month of each other as well as an Uncle a few months later you know this will extend your journey through grief. Past losses can include the deaths of loved ones and pets, jobs, many are losing homes, and people move away. If you have not dealt with these losses, you may have feelings of regret, sadness and even anger that will affect how you grieve your current loss, so be sure you acknowledge each loss for they all held meaning in your life.
Today I reflect again on the death of my husband, you see today marks the third anniversary of his death. And this year the date falls on Father’s Day which seems particularly sad because not only was he my husband, but he was a father.
I decided to honor his memory today by reflecting back on the great times, the times that I grin with joy about.
The hardest time to have to learn about grief is when you’re in the middle of it. This is when we are taking a crash course in learning how to feel and what to do, but I discovered there is no course you can take because grief is a journey none of us knows until we reach it. The grieving process is just that path we must take that will eventually get us to the other side of acceptance and joy. Until then, be gentle with yourself and take one day at a time. Oh, being in the moment with… Continue reading