By Allen Klein
After we experience a loss, we tend to focus on what we no longer have. As a result we focus our energy on the negative, or what is missing in our life, rather than on the positive, or all of those wonderful things we still have. One of my spiritual teachers once told me that when we want what we don’t have, we waste what we do have. To translate that into loss-related situations—to want what is no longer in our life is to waste what still remains in our life.
We usually don’t think about giving… Continue reading
By guest author, Ruth Mancini
I’ve always missed not having a dad.
My parents separated when I was young, and then when I was 15, my dad was hit by a car and died. There’s always been a gap in my life that could never be filled.
In the early 1990s I split up from my long term partner and the pain of my father’s death and the loss of that relationship hit me hard all at the same time. A friend once told me, “When something bad happens it drags up everything bad that has ever happened to you”… Continue reading
The grief over the sudden deaths and injuries will make people pause and wonder if they are safe? Is their city safe and are their children safe. We are all experiencing the shock, anger and sadness which are all typical reactions of grief.
How do we talk to our children about what’s happened?
We should talk to our kids… Continue reading
By now we have all seen the 24/7 coverage of the destruction on the east coast left by Hurricane Sandy on October 29th. What I see are the many losses that the people will bear who have survived.
When we think of grief we immediately think of the loss of life and yet in addition to loss of life and the grief the families must bear is the huge grief survivors face. Loss of their homes, all their personal possessions many of which are irreplaceable, their livelihood and their communities. Yes, their is much grief in… Continue reading
This past week one of my dearest friends told me her ex-husband had died. She expressed her deep grief and told me that other friends wondered why she was experiencing such grief when they were divorced?
We grieve because we love, simple as that. Think about people you don’t know personally that died. You feel bad for the family, but because you don’t know the person who died it doesn’t effect you.
We love people throughout our life regardless of how a relationship ends. When we grieve the loss of a marriage from divorce, we also grieve… Continue reading