This past week one of my dearest friends told me her ex-husband had died. She expressed her deep grief and told me that other friends wondered why she was experiencing such grief when they were divorced?
We grieve because we love, simple as that. Think about people you don’t know personally that died. You feel bad for the family, but because you don’t know the person who died it doesn’t effect you.
We love people throughout our life regardless of how a relationship ends. When we grieve the loss of a marriage from divorce, we also grieve… Continue reading
“Compassion is an amazing trait you learn when you grieve” thoughts shared in this story of death, grief and the experience of a deep dark well.
Living in the Bottom of a Well
By Sheri Hall
You look up you see a small circle of light-it is the way out. It is seemingly far away but closer than you think. It is very small; you do not want to look up. You look around at the stone walls that surround you, most would feel claustrophobic but not you. Here is where you can be you. Here… Continue reading
By: Cindy Adams
Life in my young thirties was wonderful. I was working in the school system when my youngest daughter started kindergarten. I was a happy wife and a joyful mother. Life couldn’t get better. My husband was a wonderful spouse and father. We had the American dream of having two children, a dog, living in a single family home with a fenced in backyard and swimming pool. We had fantastic neighbors and friends, and a good church family. What more could I ask for?
So what did I do when my life fell apart? My… Continue reading
By Arlen Roth
Anyone who has experienced the death of a loved one knows how it feels when we are stopped in our tracks, almost paralyzed from moving forward as we battle through our grief. It is often described by people as life standing still. This was no different for Arlen Roth and his surviving daughter Lexie following the tragic auto accident that took the life of his wife and daughter. Here’s how his loss and music transformed him to live life again. – JoAnne
By Arlen Roth
“The devastation that a tragedy such as I… Continue reading
~Grief Guide on Becoming Bigger Than Our Pain~
- What you put out comes back all the time, no matter what. Dealing with your rage and grief and fear will give you life. Acknowledge the pain, and then let it go.
- You define your own life. Don’t let other people tell you how to grieve. It is ok to be sad; the tears have to come to wash away the deep, raw pain. It takes as long as it takes.
- The ugly details of the death have no power over the present. Only you give it power. You push the pain out with love memories every time it comes back.
- When people hurt you with their own fears and terror that it could be them, take a breath. Rise above the pain, and forgive their ignorance. Continue reading