Grief is not meant to be rushed
by JoAnne
Filed under HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH GRIEF
Sometimes people try to help by rushing you out of the grieving process back into the main stream of what your life was. People sometimes even say words like “You need to get back into life” but your life is forever changed by the transition of loss. The length of the grieving process is different for each person, and you know the grieving process needs to take place for healing to begin. This is not to say one should grieve forever and not move on with life, but grieve in your own way and while the healing takes place you will move on in your own pace. Life does go on and you will too in time.
Grief Is More Difficult Than You Think
by JoAnne
Filed under HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH GRIEF
The hardest time to have to learn about grief is when you’re in the middle of it. This is when we are taking a crash course in learning how to feel and what to do, but I discovered there is no course you can take because grief is a journey none of us knows until we reach it. The grieving process is just that path we must take that will eventually get us to the other side of acceptance and joy. Until then, be gentle with yourself and take one day at a time. Oh, being in the moment with one day at a time is a whole lot easier than looking and feeling something beyond that, try it because it does work.
What Do You Fear From Loss?
by admin
Filed under death, grieving process, healing, loss
We all have fear surrounding the death of a loved one, and I think addressing those fears will help you in the grieving and healing process.
After the death of my husband, some of my fears were as follows, please send me your comments in the space below as to what were or are your fears?
- How will I ever get over this overwhelming sadness
- Unbelieving that he is actually gone
- How will my life go on without him
- How will I manage our business
- How will I financially make it
Lessons From Loss are Lessons in Living Life
by admin
Filed under grief, grieving process, healing, healing a broken heart, life, life lessons, loss, SPIRITUAL HEALING
There are many lessons I have learned through loss, and I am coming to understand now that I probably knew these lessons all along, in other words they were within me, my core, who I am. However it took the tragedy of loss for me to remember those lessons and have the courage to take action and affirm how precious life is. I am not here to dwell on loss but rather support you in life.
Healing a broken heart can be done with time, courage and the desire to heal. Going through the grieving process and healing comes from within but we are not meant to walk the journey alone. Asking for the support of family and friends is necessary and perhaps spiritual healing from clergy or any spiritual advisor. From whomever gives you comfort, they too will help you to living life again.
Loss can bring clarity to your life and to the things that matter most, don’t ignore that. There is no going back for a do over, but there is another day to live a life of joy. Take each day as it comes, be grateful for where you are and what you have NOW, and be open to new possibilities. You can’t change the past, but you can direct the wind in your sails for the future.
For an inspirational read about the true value of living life, Please take the time to read - “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pausch
“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”
–Randy Pausch
The Journey Through the Grieving Process
by JoAnne
Filed under HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH GRIEF
There is no simple way through the grieving process, I know because I’ve been there.
In 2005 I lost my Mom and husband within a month of each other and later that same year an uncle. I have lost relatives to death before, but this was different. This was the first parent I’ve lost and the only husband I’ve ever had. When someone this close to us dies, we are devastated –on an emotional, physical and spiritual level. I hadn’t had much of a chance to grieve the loss of my mother when my husband passed and now I was grieving a spouse. All my hopes and dreams came crashing in after losing my husband, my life partner.
Initially you find your own way to grieve and then with the help of family and friends hopefully you were guided as I was to outside resources for help.
Initially I recall reading a book that talked about some essential points for the grieving-healing process, I hope you find these points helpful.
- Recognize the significance of your loss
- Tell people the story of your relationship with your loved one, in other words talk about what your loved one meant in your life
- Be sure you have a safe environment when talking and seeking comfort
- Gaining some knowledge of the grief process by reading or talking to a counselor or clergyman will help
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