The American Widow Project

Last week I had the honor of speaking with  Taryn Davis, founder of  the American Widow Project and her partner Nicole Hart.  These two women amidst the grief of losing their husbands  in the Iraq war, have become dedicated to support the new generation of widows – that of the military widow.  They want other military widows to know they are not alone so Taryn produced a documentary DVD about the journey of six military widows, their struggles and sorrow and is FREE of charge to all military widows simply by sending a request to their website.  Anyone else can purchase the DVD for a small donation. Their goal is to have the military distribute a DVD in each packet given to the widow after the soldiers death, this way the widow will immediately know she is not alone.

These women have a beautiful RV with the names of all the fallen soldiers from Iraq and Afghanistan.  Nicole told me this to “honor the fallen, the heros, not to make a head count of war, this represents the life behind each name as well as the survivor behind each name” They plan on making a trip from the west coast to Washington DC where they plan to be on Memorial Day 2009.  They will be stopping at military bases along the way to talk with other widows and share the DVD.  They need our help to make this journey, so I encourage you to DONATE today and help these brave women reach out to those who are grieving a loss.

At the age of 23, these young women are wise beyond their years. Taryn said to me “we all understand that grief is universal even if you are not a military widow”and they wanted to share a few tips on healing they have learned;

1.  FOLLOW YOUR HEART – said Taryn, do what you think is right and not what others think might be best for you or how other think you should feel.

2. HOLD TRUE TO WHO YOU ARE – said Taryn, don’t think what I tell you about grief is what you should do. We’re all different.

3.  HOLD ON – said Nicole, when people tell you to let go or move on, it’s OK to hold on to memories. Those memories helped her through this journey called grief.

4. ONE DAY AT A TIME – said Nicole, to concentrate on today only helped. Don’t try to think about next week, rather take each day as it comes.

Their mission is not to tell people how to grieve but to talk and share stories but most of all to comfort and let these widows know they are not alone, that’s true Heartache To Healing. Taryn told me someone once said, “Its not so much about the road you take it’s how you take it.”  I think that’s awfully profound.

Nicole & David Hart

Nicole & David Hart

I humbly thank Michael Davis and David Hart who gave their lives for liberty, for freedom and for the United States of America.wave-flag

Taryn & Michael Davis

Taryn & Michael Davis

3 Responses to The American Widow Project

  • Krista,

    Everyone has their own journey so for you to suggest to Suzanne that she choose a different path then her own is not appropriate. You have your beliefs in God’s plan and that is respected, at the same time I ask that you respect others on their own path. – JoAnne

  • Suzanne.

    I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son, so unfortunately we have grief and loss in common. I really am writing to you because I was disturbed when I read this line, “I looked into a grief group through my sons church and realized I am not ready nor do I want to hear this was gods plan.

    The latter part of that sentence really. Death was not God’s original plan. He intended life forever, for your husband and my son initially. The fall caused His great plan to be altered. You can find God’s entire plan from beginning to end first by seeking the truth and asking God and committing to the study of His word (the bible) and He will be faithful and share with you, truths not will change your life…for the good and the healing you need, as I needed.

    I hope this was some type of “new hope” for you. Know that you are NEVER alone.

  • Today as I get on the computer, I am determined to fine some type of group grief counseling. Only to find that I really don’t fit in anywhere. My husband and I were both young 57 year olds in great health and having the time of our lives. He was on his way to work on 2/16/16 when a drunk driver hit him at a very high rate of speed and killed him instantly.
    It has been 4 months and though I function, life is no longer happy. I am lonely but not because I don’t have loved ones in my life. But they are not my husband, my partner. The man who made everyday of my life feel special. How do you move on from this? I looked into a grief group through my sons church and realized I am not ready nor do I want to hear this was gods plan. My husband loved life ,his family and me. Always planning our next big adventure.

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