Seventh Anniversary
Author: Chrisanna Hibbitts, on the Seventh Anniversary of her mother’s death
Every year I feel it. Deep, like an old heartbreak; or muscle memory from routines past… My body begins to grieve much sooner than my mind remembers why…
Days, even weeks in advance, everything starts to change… I feel more anxious and restless, unable to sleep; the exhaustion, distraction and sadness sets in. Then all the memories of her last days come flooding back…
Her fall out of bed… five weeks in the hospital… her quick deterioration and confusion, constantly asking, “Am I dying?” Then the trip home,… Continue reading
Finding Collateral Beauty in Grief
Have you seen the new movie “Collateral Beauty” starring Will Smith? He plays a man who has been grieving for years trying to make sense of a tragic death.
Death can bring us more questions about life and in the case of Will Smith’s character, is isolated himself from those who cared about him most. The story unfolds as he writes letters to Love, Time and Death. Okay, well some might say there is a similarity to a Christmas Carol story, and I say “so what.” It is a modern day story of bereavement and for those… Continue reading
Grieving Without Regret
Can there be grieving without regret? The experience of this strong emotion is both individual and universal to one extent or another.
We experience regret when we look back on our actions and feel we should or could have done something differently. In my article “When an Ex-Spouse Dies”, there are hundreds of comments from readers who experience regret following the death of their ex-spouse. Emotions from their past stirred unexpected feelings of both sadness and regret even when many had moved on to new relationships and marriages.
Is it regret or guilt?
Sometimes guilt… Continue reading
Death is a Part of Life but Little Comfort to the Griever
Guest post by: Kim Pace

Kim Pace & Mom
It has been almost three years since the death of my mother. I fumble through day after day of waking up pretending I am okay living without her. Yet, the truth is I lie every single day to myself with affirmations like “death is a part of life, she is in a better place, and she is no longer suffering”. You can rattle off all the inspirational quotes to me and my reaction is the same. I will never be the same person I was before… Continue reading
What if loss is natural and can lead to growth?
We all experience losses in life. You’re reading this because you have suffered a loss from the death of someone you loved. But think about all the losses that cause us to experience the same emotions of sadness, anger, uncertainty, depression, and denial. Many people have experienced loss of a marriage from divorce, loss of a job or loss of a pet to name a few.
Last month I lost my home in a fire and the damage was great enough that I have relocated for the next 5-6 months while my home is being rebuilt. Thankfully no one was… Continue reading