HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH GRIEF
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Grief is like the ocean; It comes on like waves ebbing and flowing
By Tracy Sheppard
As I sit on my back deck on this warm and humid May day, the wind is blowing in a warm muggy breeze. The trees are dancing and swaying. The sturdy white oak tree is like a mother to the leaves. Most appear to be securely attached to her core. Then a big gust blows by, and one lonely leaf has blown away, never to be held by its mother again. I am grieving the loss of a child.
I am like that tree.… Continue reading
Often a tragic death brings out the strength and passion of others
I have been involved with grief support since 2007 and have witnessed so many amazing transformations that have come from tragic deaths of loved ones. People who have somehow found their resilience to journey through their grief and serve others.
I’ve often pondered how any of us find the strength to help others as we walk down the path of our own grief and I discovered that for many, tragedy can bring out our passion for serving others. Serving is a trait we probably always had but… Continue reading
~Grief Guide on Becoming Bigger Than Our Pain~
- What you put out comes back all the time, no matter what. Dealing with your rage and grief and fear will give you life. Acknowledge the pain, and then let it go.
- You define your own life. Don’t let other people tell you how to grieve. It is ok to be sad; the tears have to come to wash away the deep, raw pain. It takes as long as it takes.
- The ugly details of the death have no power over the present. Only you give it power. You push the pain out with love memories every time it comes back.
- When people hurt you with their own fears and terror that it could be them, take a breath. Rise above the pain, and forgive their ignorance. Continue reading
Do you remember the song “As Time Goes By?” it was made famous in the move “Casablanca” and hundreds of artists have performed it over the years. Time going by is a fact of life and yet when you are grieving the loss of a loved one time can feel as it it stopped.
Just like you, every year I cope with the anniversary of the death’s of my Mom and husband – I wonder why it always feels like yesterday. We tend to conjure up all those feelings of what might have been, what we would be doing now and if only I could…(and I fill in the blank).
The mind really can be like a steel trap. Our thoughts and feelings swirl around inside our heads without an outlet, causing a buildup of pressure and grief – especially in a situation as devastating as the loss of a loved one.
But there is a relief valve: Putting your thoughts on paper.
Journaling is a form of self-expression that comes with no rules, boundaries or expectations that anyone else will ever read what you write. But by getting those thoughts out of your head and onto paper, you open your mind to valuable insight and healing.
How journaling has… Continue reading