Will I Ever Get Over My Grief?

People ask me this question often because they are in pain. They wonder if they will ever be happy again.  First let me say that I don’t believe you ever “get over” your loss, rather we learn to reconcile to it in time.  With that said, we do live in a society here in America  and I suspect other industrialized nations in the world where everyone wants us to  get over it, and get back to what others deem as normal life.

I know from my own personal experiences of loss that I felt like I was in a tunnel looking out and life was busy and chaotic all around me and I felt frozen in time.   I acknowledge such cultures and religions honor the dead and the bereaved differently and I praise them for this.

 During my work with the bereaved the past few years I have discovered that they almost need permission to continue to grieve because everyone else has moved on and no one is  talking about the loss anymore.  You feel all alone in your pain.

Death is uncomfortable for the living, often family,  friend, and colleagues feel vulnerable because they don’t know what to say or how to support  you.  I teach people to ask for the support they need because this is the absolute way you will feel cared for and comforted.

So when will you feel happiness again?  Is it possible that happiness may be about acceptance rather than about having fun?  Happiness can be found all around. If you start with the beauty all around you like the trees, flowers, lakes and oceans. You can find happiness in that moment of beauty and serenity.

I challenge you to find a little happiness today and this day forward.

“You don’t heal  from the loss of a loved one because time passes, you heal because of what you do with the time” – Carol Crandell

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