How Can People Know Someone Dies Before Their Time?

I’m sure many of us have heard the comment “they died before their time”  when someone dies at what seems earlier than they should have.  I felt that way when my husband died at age 55 following an accident.  Being widowed at age 49 simply didn’t seem fair.  When children die we all feel a terrible injustice and our hearts break for parents that have to endure such a loss.  But I wonder, how can people know someone dies before their time?

However long you live maybe it simply is your time.  We don’t know when our time is, when it will end here on earth and most of our religious beliefs help us come to terms with death and how we can find peace with it. When a loved one dies we most often turn to our religious faith for answers, comfort and support. Faith can offer strength to us when our loved ones die, I know for me,  my faith helped me walk the journey through grief.

Even with my faith holding me up, I wondered for years if I was missing out on life because I had stopped living?   In time I discovered healing & inspiration was all around me and I failed to notice. When I finally opened to the world around me and took time to look around  at the beauty that abounds even on my own back yard it lit a spark within me.  The spark of life and love that was there all the time, I had to invite it back in.

What I have come to learn over the years since my husband’s death is that no matter how terrible a death, it shouldn’t stop me from living.  I also believe it was his chosen time to leave this earth and I’m now okay with that.

Sometimes it seems there are so many things we can’t control, but we can choose to live, laugh and love again which is my wish for anyone reading this post today.