Grief can cause stress in a marriage particularly if a child dies because often the husband and wife grieve differently. Often women will cry and hide away at home alone and men will bury themselves in their work.
It is important to acknowledge each others grief and support that path. At the same time it is easy to lose sight of the need to support the marriage because your grief can become so debilitating. This is the time to seek help from a professional who is can give you tools to support the grieving process and the… Continue reading
I was thinking how healing it has been for me to do volunteer work because it puts my grief of loss in perspective. Particularly during the holiday season as I wrote about before, we regress back to the good times we had with someone who has died and in my case I miss my husband even more during this time because we I have such great memories of the Christmas’ we spent together.
So yesterday I volunteered at my favorite local charity providing work appropriate clothing to women getting back into the work place. Most of the women that… Continue reading
Here are some tips I want to share that will help in coping through the holiday season;
It is not only holidays that are difficult because there is an “empty chair,” but also anniversaries, birthdays, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and so on. Here are some effective ways to manage these special days:
- Plan ahead. How will you spend the day? With whom?
- Talk about your deceased loved one. This will let others know that you want to hear his/her name and to talk about that person.
- Establish personal priorities. Decide what you want to do, how you wish to celebrate,… Continue reading
As we experience a loss it is important that you reach out and ask for help. Telling someone what you need is not shameful, nor is a sign of weakness. But asking for help may make you vulnerable and uncomfortable if you are used to doing everything yourself. (I say that from experience)
Most people feel helpless around you and would do anything to ease your pain, but we must remember to ask and not presume the people who love us are psychic!
Here are a few suggestions on tasks to start with;
– ask a neighbor kid to mow… Continue reading