Regret is one of those emotions you most likely will experience during grief. You might have regrets over things you wish you would have said or done while you had the chance, you have that thought – “If only I had….” this thought will probably persist until one day you come to terms with the fact you couldn’t have done anything differently. The thoughts of regret are really harmful and you must know you can change the past, but you have the future filled with new possibilities and opportunities to tell anyone you choose how important they… Continue reading
As you attempt to deal with your sadness, anger, and fear you may find it helpful to write about those feelings. Writing about your feelings helps to unload some of that pressure because it gives you a way to express your emotions. Grief is a journey and grieving is a process, writing is a tool that can help you on your journey to heal.
Some find it helpful to write letters to those they’ve lost, others write their feelings in a journal which is what I do and still others may write in blogs or grief forums such as… Continue reading
Anger. We all experience it, some more than others like those who are grieving a loss. That applies to loss from death, divorce or even a job loss.
Anger does not necessarily follow a logical path. Different people will focus their anger in different directions. For instance, you might be angry with people or at circumstances surrounding your loss, or you may be angry at the person you lost – that could even be an ex-spouse who you are angry at for the loss of a marriage.
In any case, is your anger misdirected to those you think are responsible… Continue reading
Sometimes the best remedy for grief is to find ways to touch someone else’s life. This is something that has helped me and I’ve seen it help others I know as well. Through your own grief try opening up and observing the needs around you, there will be ways you can take your own experiences and develop skills to help others in need. Often time grief can isolate and create loneliness, volunteering is a good way to get back into life regardless of your age. Seniors can volunteer in their communities, churches and senior centers. Younger… Continue reading
Sometimes people try to help by rushing you out of the grieving process back into the main stream of what your life was. People sometimes even say words like “You need to get back into life” but your life is forever changed by the transition of loss. The length of the grieving process is different for each person, and you know the grieving process needs to take place for healing to begin. This is not to say one should grieve forever and not move on with life, but grieve in your own way and while the healing takes place you… Continue reading