When An Ex-Spouse Dies
Recently one of my dearest friends told me her ex-husband had died. She expressed her deep grief and told me that other friends wondered why she was experiencing such grief when they were divorced?
It’s complicated and referred to as disenfranchised grief. Disenfranchised grief refers to losses that are not publicly acknowledged, socially supported, and openly mourned.
Whatever you call this grief, I believe as human beings who feel emotionally, we just need to be recognized as people dealing with loss of any kind.
We grieve because we love, regardless of how the relationship ended. … Continue reading
Compassion- an amazing trait you learn when you grieve
“Compassion is an amazing trait you learn when you grieve” thoughts shared in this story of death, grief and the experience of a deep dark well.
Living in the Bottom of a Well
By Sheri Hall
You look up you see a small circle of light-it is the way out. It is seemingly far away but closer than you think. It is very small; you do not want to look up. You look around at the stone walls that surround you, most would feel claustrophobic but not you. Here is where you can be you. Here… Continue reading
No Need to Grieve Alone
Last week my friend Pam was faced with the two year anniversary of her husband Denny’s death and she didn’t want to do it alone. She had asked our mutual friend Linda and myself to accompany her to light a candle at church in his memory and to share a meal with her which we did to celebrate Denny’s life.
I was proud of Pam for asking for what she needed, and that was the support of friends who understood her loss, which both Linda and I did after losing our significant others and to not be… Continue reading
Grief is not meant to be rushed
Sometimes people try to help by rushing you out of the grieving process back into the main stream of what your life was. People sometimes even say words like “You need to get back into life” but your life is forever changed by the transition of loss. The length of the grieving process is different for each person, and you know the grieving process needs to take place for healing to begin. This is not to say one should grieve forever and not move on with life, but grieve in your own way and while the healing takes place you… Continue reading