loss of spouse
We are never prepared for the loneliness and grief following the death of a spouse. Even if we talked to our spouse who may have had a lingering illness about being alone after they pass, it still remains something you are never prepared for.
Difference Between Being Alone and Loneliness
I have been living alone now for more than ten years since the passing of my husband and much of that time I am fine being alone meaning not being with another individual or a pet. I actually had a cat most of the time, she died two years ago… Continue reading
Recently one of my dearest friends told me her ex-husband had died. She expressed her deep grief and told me that other friends wondered why she was experiencing such grief when they were divorced?
It’s complicated and referred to as disenfranchised grief. Disenfranchised grief refers to losses that are not publicly acknowledged, socially supported, and openly mourned.
Whatever you call this grief, I believe as human beings who feel emotionally, we just need to be recognized as people dealing with loss of any kind.
We grieve because we love, regardless of how the relationship ended. … Continue reading
Tonight I had dinner with my 80 year old father and during dinner I asked him if it seemed like five years since Mom died, he shook his head and replied “No, not really, seems like it was much more recent.” There is a strange phenomenon that happens when you lose someone significant in your life, in this case grieving a spouse – its almost as if time stands still. We remember with great clarity how our life “used to be.” During dinner I teased Dad about eating all of his vegetables and that I bet Mom was looking… Continue reading